Words have no value in the wild. If you show your fictional masterpiece to a starving lion, it will still eat you. Confronted with the most scandalous comment by a politician, a cat will not care, nor will she rave over your oil painting.
The reality of certain things is determined by a lot of people agreeing that they exist, and if all but one person disappeared, symbols such as money or artistic representations would lose all of their power.
But few measure reality from the point of view of a cat.
This trend toward abstraction has been denounced by many who declare that the warmth of real human contact has been replaced by superficial textual exchanges on Facebook, Twitter, and other forms of social media.
Writing lets people escape from communicating in real-time to recording thoughts for later deciphering. It is also a way to reach an undefined audience rather than a specific person. But to onlookers, writers appear detached from the real world.
While I feel free to be myself with family and close friends, I have generally felt lonelierin groups than when I was alone. In reading I found the honesty that was missing in face-to-face encounters. I could know a fictional character more intimately than my own family.
But part of my impulse to write came from feeling that I could never be fully understood in situations where I was limited to speaking. Writing let me plumb below the surface and say honest things that would be too strange to say at parties.
Writing is fundamentally social. Without readers to “listen,” writing has no meaning or power, any more than a painting would mean anything to a lion beyond, perhaps, the toxic chemical scent of oils.
For readers to make sense of text, they must form meaningful images from various combinations of 26 letters. From those abstract symbols, readers imagine, feel, and plumb the depths of their memories; without all of that, writing would be a jumble of meaningless symbols.
Still, language works well enough that I can read a novel written by someone who lives across the ocean in a country I have never visited and still grasp what it must be like to live there.
But are detached, text-based interactions a mentally unhealthy phenomenon? Are they even real?
As abstract as the communication was, I felt like I knew my clients. When their text indicated that they liked my writing, I was happy. When their text “disapproved,” I fretted. When it made irrational demands, I felt annoyed.
Sometimes I went too far in interpreting what lay behind those letters, reading emotions into them where none existed. For example, when emails were terse, I worried that my client was irritated.
My practical husband Donnie cautioned me not to read anything into the text beyond the literal words on the screen. Otherwise I would be building an illusion which had nothing to do with the true feelings of my client.
Others struggle with this problem, too. Donnie told me about a former boss who interpreted every email as being angry, but when Donnie looked over the same email, he could never find any evidence of ire.
But as a die-hard writing chauvinist, I am unable to believe that speaking is a more effectiveform of communication than writing. Writing lets me reveal more complex thoughts and feelings than I ever could in speech without seeming insane.
But how sane is living a text-based world? Writing isan abstract and disembodied way to communicate. And no self-respecting mountain lion would agree to participate in such an unnatural activity even if it could.
But cats do not know everything. What goes on in cyberspace comes from real people with real feelings, drawing from a world of experience and knowledge residing beneath the ice burg tips of the text they send.
Computer based interaction, whatever its drawbacks, has created new avenues for personal expression. With only 26 letters, we manage to troll, befriend, inform, complain, persuade, anger, flatter, and disappoint. Social media – like writing – is complex, emotion-driven, human.
Though undeniably strange.